Bolanle Ninalowo has shared a word of advice for people who engage in the kind of marriage issue which he found himself.
Understanding the ABUSIVE process:
A narcissist doesnt strip your identity overnight. They subtly chip away more and more until every thought you have, word you speak, and action you take is worship and tribute to them.
This is when the denial starts.
You tell yourself they’re just a tortured soul that they just need someone to support them and show them compassion. They have horrible stories about past abuse and toxic family members.
So you invest your time, energy, and entire self into the narcissist but its not enough. Its never enough and there is no limit to how long this can last. May be months, years or in most cases even decades!
You reevaluate everything you thought you knew about yourself.
By the time youre on the outside looking in, you’ll see every pebble that slowly created a landslide and wonder how on earth you didnt notice it happening.
This gradual process makes healing your self-image such a difficult challenge.
But you can heal & thrive!
You are not alone 😊
Share your view or opinion.
Namaste 🙏🏾
Read some social media reactions below;
Iyalashoejire wrote: I can relate … they are the cause of ur response yet they make people feel u are an alaseju….
Chypeefoods Wrote: Creating a problem and acting a victim in the same problem you created. Quiet and good to people outside and hostile to the spouse. Always complaining of your reaction but they brought the action that sprung your reaction. Always reporting you to people but they’re the problem. I don see something at this my tender age 😭😭😭even in my pregnancy I will totally abandoned 😭I would pay my husband on Saturdays to help me with chores. Silent treatment 💯 over💯I thank God at 32 years I found courage to walk away😢
Fg_store_store wrote: @chypeefoods i walk away at 30,i nearly kpai,this man will be the cause of the problem and still act saint for people’s,have been receiving beating immediately after my wedding,during my 2 pregnancy for him ,he will be@t me and still tell me ese lati ma na Alaboyun,i God am out and strong 💪
Patsyudenyi wrote: Being with a narcissist is more like a rat biting you and still blowing you. It’s a form of manipulation. They are passive-aggressive and the funny part is, they are good to outsiders. So when you begin to tell your story, no one believes you. They are good at masking their true selves to strangers.
Official_ikechukwu Wrote: Spot on . And guess what , I’m healing, I’m getting myself back fully and forgiving myself for not knowing or seeing what my life experiences should have protected me from. Love is nonsense when it ain’t mutual . Finding out is key
Xtabe Wrote: I understand some of them are not aware of their situation while some are deliberately doing it since they know it’s always a win for them. My question now is having found yourself around one of them( especially when he/she can sometimes be fun to be with) how can we help them or must we leave them with their problem to deal with? Please this is an honest question 🙏🏼
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